The feeling you have got from losing a few pounds is priceless-
“Nothing tastes as good as losing weight feels, ” they say, but what can leave you feeling deflated and frustrated, is a diet saboteur. No sooner than you have dropped a dress size and lost a few pounds than the diet saboteurs are out in force with the following statements.
"Your wasting away"
"Your lovely as you are"
"You don't eat enough"
"You're doing so great -- you can have one little piece"
"I like a bit meat on my women/man."
"You don't need to lose any more weight"
"Why don't you just quit exercising, eat what you want and die happy"
These people, consciously or not, are trying to sabotage your diet, There’s one everywhere you look, they are usually the people you work with, your closest friends or your even your family. Most of the time they do actually mean well, however, sometimes you can see it as a criticism and can be left feeling deflated and upset!
Although to be brutally honest, these people have no idea how they’re sabotaging you. But every time you achieve a weight loss Milestone, they are there offering - not support and encouragement, but an extra doughnut, some crisps, maybe an extra glass of wine, and "egging" you on to "just eat"
But why do they do it?
They don't understand:
Some people have never had a weight problem and just don’t understand how hard you’ve worked to get where you are.
They think it’s "silly" for you to worry about what you eat and have always thought you were perfect as you are, however, they don't often see what you see when you're standing naked in front of the mirror, we always think that we can do with losing a few pounds and are never entirely satisfied with what we see, others have a different perception of us, they accept us how we are, but if your reading this article, I know you will agree with me when I say we are all our own worst critic.
They feel Guilty:
You're losing weight at a rapid rate and fitting back into old clothes, they, however, are not, they are still waiting for Monday to come to start the "diet" or for when the next "offer" becomes available at the gym or slimming club, which tends to be never!
They don't like Change
Getting fit and losing weight through healthy eating and exercise creates big changes, not just in your body but your whole attitude on life. These changes are ones that you wholeheartedly welcome, however, if your friends and family aren't in the same mode of change, they can be oblivious, jealous, and uncomfortable with your changes. But what causes this change in their behaviour towards you, after you have ringed them excitedly to tell them that you've just zipped your jeans up without a struggle on the bed.
They miss the "old" you
Remember when you were fun, remember the sweets and treats you brought into work, the after-hours socialising, enjoying the "happy hours" spent in the pub, indulging in chips and garlic bread - Weekends just don't seem the same without you, the Friday night curry, the Saturday takeaway and the Sunday carvery.. or maybe you’re spending more time on fitness and going to the gym or attending fitness classes and have less free time for them.
What to do: Try the following suggestions to help conquer your saboteurs
Don’t assume the worst:
Unless sabotage is blatantly deliberate, give saboteurs the benefit of the doubt when it comes to their motives. If your mother serves you your favourite calorie-laden dinner, it’s more than likely that she associates food with love, not that she wants you fat. She's your mother, she just wants to see you healthy and happy.
Just say no:
You shouldn’t have to accept someone forcing you to eat something that you don't want too. Just politely Say "No, thanks," and leave it at that, what you chose to eat or not to eat, has absolutely nothing to do with them- you wouldn't force an alcoholic to have a drink or a smoker to have a cigarette, would you? Remember you are making the choices that benefit you.
Don't feel guilty about leftovers:
With severe food crisis and desperate situations all over the world, none of us like food waste, but remember you don’t have to be a member of the 'Lick your plate clean club" if you are full, and you can't physically eat anymore, then let that be the end of the discussion. You don't need to justify your actions to anyone.
Share your success secrets:
Show people what they're missing, give them a sample of the healthy foods you've learned to enjoy, share your tasty recipes, introduce them to new exciting food, that they've never tried before. Take them to your fitness class, or enrol them as your gym buddy, the minute you both have a common interest again, will not only please them but get them healthy too!
Set up your own support system:
If you can recruit friends and family in your quest for a healthier life, you will be able to create a valuable support system. Research suggests that when your social network supports you, you have more success. Avoid friends (at least temporarily) who are a negative influence, maybe even make new friends who share your goals. You’ll get stronger with time, and be able to handle the not-so-supportive people.
Be a grown up:
Remember that ultimately, whatever you put in your mouth is your responsibility. While others may tempt you, it is you who is in control of your own life. Feel empowered that you’re not adopting a healthier lifestyle for someone else, but for you and that is all that matters, learn to enjoy your new found confidence, you only have one life, so ignore the saboteurs and live it to its fullest.